It is a rainy afternoon in late June 2023, like so many this month on the southern coast of Maine. As tree huggers, Hannah and I are off to the Climate Action Fair at York High School. As a mini-convention of eco-friendly folks, we meet our former primary care physician, a guy we knew when our kids were in elementary school together, and a friend who has fallen head over heels in love with pickleball like we once were.
As part of the come-on to get people to come to this four-hour event, there were raffles for a battery operated E-GO mower, leaf blower, and weed whacker. Always up for a freebie, Hannah and I each get a ticket with what we know is a very modest chance of winning.
You have probably guessed where this is going. Hannah’s ticket number is called. Since the mower has been taken, she picks the weed whacker. Once the fair is winding down, she picks up her prize. The guy giving it to us offers to take the boxed weed whacker to our car.
Two things to note, one, it is raining and two, I can handle it simply enough but…
… but I see an opportunity to make a connection to a guy who presents as amiable and friendly. So I let him carry it out. I will have blown a chance to interact further if I just say, “Oh, I can get that.” As we walk to the car, Hannah and I learn that John is on his way to the local First Parish Church where he again is volunteering to clean up the Attic Treasures yard sale.
That little information gives me the chance to make things happen.
You, faithful readers of my blog, may remember Hannah and I were part of group in Carpinteria, California where we each of us came up with a community project. Mine was to invite engaging people Hannah and I met on our morning walk above the beach for coffee. Cara, one of the group members, designed a card for me to hand out to ones we found intriguing.
In California, we made two long lasting connections with Eric, then later Mary. Hannah and I have since talked how we might make such connections here in York. Don’t wait to interact if you get a great first impression! is one such idea.
Knowing our friend Karen is also volunteering at the Attic Treasures yard sale, we text her to see if she knows John. It turns out she does and can find his email for us.
Given John’s email, I cold call him (by email) and invite him and his wife to our front deck for coffee and some of Hannah’s morning glory muffins. I figure, What the hell do I have to lose! I have big shoulders. I can take “No.”
It turns out John is delighted to come with his wife, but says it’s a busy time, how ‘bout in a few weeks?
Emailing him three weeks later, I set up an 8:30 Monday to get together on our front deck.
Despite thinking, what the hell have I done the morning prior to their arrival, Hannah and I find John and his wife Susan delightful company. What a combo! They are both interesting and interested in us.
That’s a W for just taking a shot! He just might be cooler than you think.